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Establish wise and loving limits that make a positive difference in your teen, in the rest of your family, and in you.

The teen years: relationships, peer pressure, school, dating, character. To help teenagers grow into healthy adults, parents and youth workers need to teach them how to take responsibility for their behavior, their values, and their lives.

From bestselling author and counselor Dr. John Townsend, Boundaries with Teens is the expert insight and guidance you need to help your teens take responsibility for their actions, attitudes, and emotions and gain a deeper appreciation and respect both for you and for themselves.

With wisdom and empathy, Dr. Townsend applies biblically based principles for the challenging task of guiding your children through the teen years. Using the same principles he used to successfully raise two teens, he shows you how to:

Deal with disrespectful attitudes and impossible behavior in your teen
Set healthy limits and realistic consequences
Be loving and caring while establishing rules
Determine specific strategies to deal with problems both big and small

Discover how boundaries make parenting teens better today!

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The Boundaries book series has transformed marriages, families, organizations, and individuals around the world, with 4 million copies sold.

Some people focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. That’s why the ability to set clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. In relationships, boundaries define who we are and who we are not, which impacts every part of our lives.

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When parents tell teens the truth, set limits, establish curfews, confront misbehavior, and do a host of other things, they are providing a structure and helping teens to develop a structure. If all goes well, teens will ultimately and safely discard their parents’ structure and, using their own structure, be able to meet the demands of adult life and responsibility.

And that is the purpose of this book, to show you how to help your adolescent shoulder responsibility for her actions, attitudes, and speech so that she learns the gift of self-control and ownership over her life. The whole process starts with you, the parent. So in this book you will learn a deceptively simple skill that all parents of teens need: knowing when to say Yes, and how to say No. That is, how to implement and enforce healthy, loving boundaries with your adolescent.

You’ll also find help for developing your own limits so that you can transmit what you know and who you are to your teen.

—Dr. John Townsend


Part One: Be a Parent with Boundaries This part will help you to develop your own personal boundaries, so that you can create the best boundaries for your teen.	Part Two: Understand the Teenage World This part is a window into the mind and world of the adolescent, so that you can understand what your teen is thinking and feeling.	Part Three: Set Boundaries with Your Teen This part shows you how to set healthy boundaries with your teen.	Part Four: Address Common Problems This part explores specific problems that adolescents struggle with and offers tips on what you, the parent, can do about them.

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	Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life	Beyond Boundaries: Learning to Trust Again in Relationships	Boundaries in Dating: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships	Boundaries in Marriage: The Choices That Make or Break Loving Relationships	Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children	Boundaries for Leaders: Results, Relationships, and Being Ridiculously in Charge

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Other Boundaries books by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend	Join the millions who have learned how to take control of their lives by setting healthy boundaries with their spouses, children, friends, parents, coworkers, and even themselves, in order to live life to the fullest.	For when your trust has been broken: discover how to set firm boundaries again, how to connect deeply without being hurt, and how to safely grow your most intimate relationships.	Boundaries in Dating offers illuminating insights for romance that can help you grow in freedom, honesty, and self-control as you pursue healthy dating limits that can lead to a happy marriage.	Learn when to say yes and how to say no in the context of your marriage relationship. Once you have boundaries in place, a good marriage can become better, and a less-than-satisfying one can even be saved.	Yes, you can say no to your child and still be a loving parent. Discover how setting biblical boundaries can make your parenting better today!	Dr. Henry Cloud leverages his expertise of human behavior, neuroscience, and leadership to explain how the best leaders set boundaries within their organizations—with their teams and with themselves—to improve performance and increase satisfaction.

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Teenagers! You love them to pieces ... but sometimes you feel like the pieces are falling apart Relax! Your sanity will survive these rocky teenage years, and so will your teens---provided you set healthy boundaries that work to their benefit and yours. Boundaries with Teens shows you how. From bestselling author and counselor Dr. John Townsend, here is the expert insight and guidance you need to help your teens take responsibility for their actions, attitudes, and emotions and gain a deeper appreciation and respect both for you and for themselves. With wisdom and empathy, Dr. Townsend, a father of two teens himself, applies biblically based principles for the challenging task of guiding your children through the teen years. He shows you how to: * deal with disrespectful attitudes and impossible behavior in your teen * set healthy limits and realistic consequences * be loving and caring while establishing rules * determine specific strategies to deal with problems both big and small Discover how your teenager thinks. Learn how to apply biblical principles to specific problems. Boundaries with Teens can help you establish wise and loving limits that make a positive difference in your adolescent, in the rest of your family, and in you.

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Dr. John Townsend, coauthor with Dr. Henry Cloud of the Gold Medallion Award–winning book Boundaries, is a parent of two teenagers. He is a cohost with Dr. Cloud of the nationally broadcast New Life Live! radio program, a cofounder of Cloud- Townsend Resources, and the bestselling author or coauthor of numerous books, including Boundaries in Marriage, Boundaries in Dating, and How to Have That Difficult Conversation You’ve Been Avoiding.

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Boundaries with Teens Copyright 2006 by John Townsend This title is also available as a Zondervan ebook product. Visit www.zondervan.com/ebooks for more information. This title is also available as a Zondervan audio product. Visit www.zondervan.com/audiopages for more information. Requests for information should be addressed to: Zondervan, Grand Rapids, Michigan 49530 Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Townsend, John Sims, 1952 -- . Boundaries with teens : when to say yes, how to say no / John Townsend. --- 1st ed. p. cm. Includes bibliographical references. ISBN-13: 978-0-310-25957-2 ISBN-10: 0-310-25957-6 1. Parent and teenager --- Religious aspects --- Christianity. 2. Child rearing --- Religious aspects --- Christianity. 3. Parenting --- Religious aspects --- Christianity. 4. Teenagers --- Conduct of life. I. Title. BV4529.T685 2006 649'.125 --- dc22 2005024426 This edition printed on acid-free paper. All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible: New International Version. NIV. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved. Scripture quotations marked NLT are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, IL 60189 USA. All rights reserved. The website addresses recommended throughout this book are offered as a resource to you. These websites are not intended in any way to be or imply an endorsement on the part of Zondervan, nor do we vouch for their content for the life of this book. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means --- electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or any other --- except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior permission of the publisher. Published in association with Yates and Yates, LLP, Attorneys and Counselors, Orange, CA. Interior design by Melissa Elenbaas Printed in the United States of America 06 07 08 09 10 11 * 22 21 20 19 18 17 16 15 14 13 12 11 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 Chap ter 1 Revisit Your Own Adolescence One night when I was seventeen, I ran my parents' Ford Fairlane station wagon as fast as it would go. It gave out on me after about two miles. It just stopped, and that was it. The engine had to be rebuilt. What was I thinking? It was a station wagon! I had to call my dad at 1:00 a.m. so he could take me home. We had the car towed the next day. While the Fairlane tragedy isn't a good memory, I benefited from that experience. When one of my sons told me that he had lost a watch I had given him, I remembered how crummy I had felt when I had to call my own father and tell him what had happened to the Fairlane. That memory helped me understand how bad my son was feeling about losing his watch, so I just told him, 'Oh, well, we'll get another and try again.' If you have a pulse, you have similar stories from your adolescence. Teens do things that are irresponsible. That is the nature of adolescence. For some of us, the teen years had some minor blips, and for others of us, they were miserable. For the sake of your teen, remember your own adolescence. The more you can recollect how you felt and what you did then, the better a parent you will be. Your Teen Needs You to Have a Past Why should you unearth those days? What benefit will it bring to your adolescent? Significant ones, as we will see. Remembering can help you show your teen: Empathy and identification. It is easy to forget how difficult the teen years can be, and parents sometimes judge teens too harshly for behaving like a teenager. But your teen needs a parent who will connect with him and show him empathy, who can identify with what he is going through and who understands the struggle of adolescence. He needs to know that he is not alone in the fight. Think about how much you need someone to hear you and be there for you in your everyday struggles as an adult. What if every time you screwed up, all you heard was, 'What in the world are you doing? Are you trying to ruin your life?' Wouldn't it be easy to feel disheartened and give up? Your teen, whose brain is less developed than yours, is even less resilient in the face of criticism. Your support can soften the blows that will inevitably come your teen's way. This doesn't mean that you should tell your teen lots of stories about your own adolescence. Parents often do that, thinking it's helping, when it really ends up being more for the parent than for the teen. Instead, remember those days, give them a few stories now and then, but keep most of your memories to yourself and allow them to help you identify with your teen. I have had so many teens tell me how disconnected they feel when dad tells them all the stories of his adolescence. It's much better for you to enter their world. Nor does identifying with your teen mean you will approve of all his choices; rather, you are able to put yourself in your teen's place --- even when he is being rude, self-centered, and unreasonable. When you see a little part of yourself in your adolescent, you can give him the connection he needs to mature. Insight and wisdom. Because you have survived your own adolescence, you have access to what helped you during those turbulent years, and why. When you remember what made a difference in your life, those memories can give you insight and wisdom so that you, in turn, can provide what your teen needs. So ask yourself these three questions: 1. Who stuck with me without giving up on me? 2. What truths helped me make sense of the world? 3. What did I learn from the consequences of my actions? My Boy Scout troop leader, A. J. 'DK' DeKeyser, spent time with me during countless meetings and trips. He encouraged me to stay in Boy Scouts when I was ready to bail. And he didn't tell my parents every bad thing I did; instead, he handled each one himself. DK is one of those people whose wisdom helped me learn persistence, and my memories of him have reminded me of the kind of parent I want to be. Hope. All parents wonder if their teen will ever change, become responsible, or care about his or her life. Parents don't know their children's future. Yet, because you can remember your own adolescence, you now can understand your own life and decisions. You know that you went through tough times and made many bad decisions, but that you gradually became more connected, self-controlled, focused, and responsible. Your own years should offer you hope for your teen; you can convey that hope even when your teen is floundering. My mother raised four kids. After I had grown up, I asked her how she made it. She told me that when she was overwhelmed with us, she would go to her own mom, who had raised six kids. Her mom would always tell her the same thing: 'It's just a stage; they'll grow out of it.' This helped my mom put up with us and help us get to the next stage, whatever it was. Try to Remember . . . Even though it's not uncommon for parents to talk about how much more challenging the world is today for teens, research statistics say otherwise. For example, between 1978 and 2002, the average age for drinking alcohol for the first time went from 16.3 years to 16.2. The age for smoking the first cigarette went up from 15.2 years of age to 16.1, and the age for smoking marijuana for the first time went from 18.4 years of age to 17.2. In 1991, 54 percent of students had had sexual intercourse. In 2003, the percentage was 46 percent. Today's parents can rest assured that many of the challenges they faced in adolescence are similar to the challenges their teens face.

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Publisher ‏ : ‎ Zondervan; New edition (May 18, 2009)
Publication date ‏ : ‎ May 18, 2009
Language ‏ : ‎ English
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Dr. John Townsend (drtownsend.com) is a New York Times bestselling author, leadership consultant and psychologist. He has written or co-written over 30 books, selling 10 million copies, including the Boundaries book series, People Fuel and Leading From Your Gut.
John is the founder of the Townsend Institute for Leadership and Counseling and the Townsend Leadership Program. He speaks regularly on leadership, relationships and success. Dr. Townsend consults with business and leaders on a national level, and also coaches family businesses in success and relationship strategies.
John is a board member of Mustard Seed Ranch, which provides equine therapy to abused children, and is involved with other service organizations. He and his family life in Southern California and Dallas, Texas. His favorite hobby is playing in the Bandits, a band comprised of himself and his two sons, Ricky and Benny!
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Great Info to help guide you and your Teen

Reviewed in the United States on April 28, 2024

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I'm 67 years old and have raised 3 adult children and 9 Grankids and I LOVED this book. It gave me ideas and info on how to approach this generation in a better way. A Must read if you have children 10 to 18 years old.

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The author clarifies the teenager experience in a way that removes a lot of the stress and worry from our perceptions of it. Teenagers do make sense and there is a clear and reasonable way to help them navigate their way through the culture and their emotions.

The book first underlines the importance of boundaries. It then goes on to explain that parents need to have healthy boundaries in order to pass on boundaries to their teens. It ends with specific ways of enforcing boundaries with your teens. The emphasis of the book is to use love and limits to create an internally-integrated adult out of a teen; in other words, the teens internally adopt the boundaries you show them so they have their own independent structure.

I am currently going back through the book to take notes. The book has a lot of information to digest and since the information is so practical I want to make sure I won't forget it when I have the opportunity to apply it. I think it is an excellent book and I highly recommend it. If/when the author writes a workbook for this book, I will definitely buy it.

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This is the most insighful book I've read yet on raising a teen. I found myself encouraged and underlining passages on almost every page. Most of this review is simply excerpts of what I have found the most informative. Freedom for teens is earned by demonstrating responsibility and parents need to find the right balance between being too controlling and when they are being healthy and appropriate about saying "no". When parents set limits they're helping teens learn to develop a healthy structure and gain self-control and ownership over their life. We need to be active, be loving, be present, be truthful, be consistent; in other words, be the parent. Teenagers act like they don't care what their parents think and say but in reality it matters a lot to them. It is easy to forget how difficult the teenage years can be, and parents sometimes judge teens too harshly for behaving like a teenager. Your teen needs a parent who will connect with her and show her empathy, who can identify with what she is going through and understand the struggle of adolescence. She needs to know that she is not alone in her fight. What if every time you screwed up all you heard was "what in the world were you thinking". Your teen, whose brain is less developed than yours, is even less resilient in the face of criticism. Teens don't like conflict with their parents anymore than parents do. Aim to know your teen rather than change them. Learn to listen to your teen more - draw her out, so you can see what she is thinking about and struggling with. Refrain from moralizing about every wrong thing you hear.
Ask questions that require more than a "yes" or "no". Begin with questions about facts, move to thoughts, and then to emotions. Your teen needs to know you know her on a heart level. Teens will develop self-control and responsibility to the extent parents have healthy boundaries. The more teens experience negative consequences of their poor choices, the more internal structure and self-control they will have.
Parents need to develop separateness. Parents with separateness can stand apart from their teen's anger, demands and behavior and are able to respond appropriately without getting caught up in the drama. Parents should give up the fantasy that they can make their teens happy. Being honest means directly confronting your teen when they have crossed a line. Parents should stick with rules and consequences, as long as they are reasonable, and say "no" to attempts to manipulate, wear down, or even intimidate them. God made parents to be guardrails on the twisting road of life. You need to be strong enough for kids to crash into over and over again. Guardrails get dinged up, but they work well, they preserve the young lives that run up against them.
Your teen needs you to be connected to other adults in meaningful relationships. Don't let guilt stop you from doing something right that will make your teen mad, disappointed or frustrated. You need to be free to set and keep limits so your teen can benefit from experiencing structure, clarity and consequences which will increase your teen's self-control and sense of ownership over her life. Some parents fear that if they set limits, their teens will distance themselves, detach and withdraw their love. But this would only teach teens that they get their way by cutting off their love which create difficulty in their future adult relationships. When a teen does disconnect, the parent should take the initiative to reconnect since teens don't have these skills they need their parents help. It is normal for teens to respond in anger when parents hold to limits. However if parents can love and still hold the limit the teen will learn to let go of that anger which is a major step toward maturity. When parents consistently provide their teens with warmth and structure, teens become less extreme, impulsive and moody. Not allowing your teen to fail can be one of the biggest mistakes you make.
To a teen, being understood is everything. Your teen has a lot to manage considering she is going through lots of changes all at once: neurological, hormonal, emotional, social and spiritual therefore be understanding. Your teen is disoriented inside, and with good reason. It is normal, in fact is good and necessary for your teen to go through adolescence. It enables the teen to transition from parental dependence to adult independence. She needs to be safe in your care while she tries out her identity, role, power and skills. Teens are divided people. They need parents but desire freedom from them, they struggle between being perfect and having a dark side, they can use thought and judgment then switch to feelings and impulsiveness. But your love and consistent structure help your teen integrate these conflicting parts and find healthy balance. Teens often don't know what they think or feel because they are constantly evolving into different people. Do not try to fight your teen's desire for separation, because you will surely lose, as you should. Don't put your teen in a no-win situation when she must keep herself and lose her parents or lose herself and keep her parents. Be a supporter of your kid's extra family world, as long as that world is reasonable, safe and supports your own values and beliefs. Let your teen know that it is okay to have interests outside yourself. Stay connected, even in differences. Don't let conflicts and differences alienate you.
The teen years are a valid spiritual passage that she must go through in order to own her own faith. It's a time of challenging and questioning in all areas. Your teen needs to wrestle with God. But the struggle needs to be between your teen and God, not between your teen and you. Keep your head out of the sand when it comes to knowing the cultural influences on your teen. Take wise and deliberate action to help them keep these in right perspective. When your teen talks about the culture listen without moralizing. Talk to your teen about these cultural messages. Bring up sex, drugs, violence and ethics. She may resist but remember she is trying to sort it out. Your teen needs you to be clear, explicit and direct about your views. Teens need love, self-control, values, restraint and a sense of responsibility for their lives. They don't come by these without the hard work of their parents. Teens become disconnected from their parents when they believe neither knew or cared about what they felt. Parents should learn to listen without preaching. They should provide love and support and empathize with their teen's struggle. When your teen is underachieving, being disrespectful, or acting out there is always an underlying reason. It is the parent's job to sift and dig below the surface to address the root cause. Problems caused by irresponsibility, immaturity, defiance, self-centeredness and impulsiveness can often be addressed by enforcing consequences. However the problem can be caused by emotional detachment, hurt or discouragement and no amount of bounders setting will work with someone who is down. When you set boundaries on a discouraged teen it only increases their discouragement. This type of teen needs to be lifted up and give grace. Begin with love so that the teen will see that her behavior is the problem and not an out of control angry parent. Love helps the teen point to herself as the problem. Love opens the door to change and truth provides the guidance in the form of rules, requirements and expectations.
Teens need to know what the line is so they can decide whether or not to cross it. Appropriate rules help your teen to see that structure and responsibility are normal and expected in life. Then give your teen freedom to accept or reject the rules and the reality of the consequences. They need to face consequences to experience that good behavior brings good results and bad behavior brings bad results. Accept that it is normal for your teens to resist the limits parents set. So love your teen, stay connected to her, and support that wrestling process.
Let your teen participate in the process of setting house rules. Be willing to compromise on matters of preference and style but not on matters of principle. Teens often lash out in anger when they are given boundaries. In these cases you need to contain your teen's feelings. Containing is something you do inside yourself, in "being with" your teen. It is not what you say as much as how present you are. You are allowing yourself to experience your teen's wrath, fury and disappointment with you. This is no small task. It takes work. Containing involves maintaining eye contact, being warm, and not being overwhelmed, defensive, or disrupted by your teen's emotion. It tells your teen "Your anger and frustration are real, but our relationship is larger than those feelings. They don't scare me away, and they don't need to scare you either." This helps the teen feel more stable inside and more receptive to you later.
Listen empathically is the ability to hear and understand what your teen is saying from her perspective. Empathy allows you to join in and connect and let your teen know she is understood. To do this you need to put your own experience on a backburner. Before you reach a decision about the rightness or wrongness, be understanding and compassionate. Look for feelings of sadness, hurt, rejection or frustration below the facts. The real work is to have empathy when your teen has rage toward you. Let your teen have her anger but don't personalize it. Teens need to have their own feelings and to know what acceptable anger feels like. When your teen disagrees, say, "Interesting thought. Why do you think that"? This approach disarms much of the challenge and provocation. As a parent you are your teen's primary teacher for learning how to disagree and have respect.

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Well written backed by biblical truth. This book is a must read for parents who want their relationship with their teens to be founded on love and respect.

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Priceless resource as we walk with our kids through their teen years

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Raising three teenage boys has proven to one of the most challenging, delightful frustrating and rewarding experiences of my life, and now.... I am the stepmom of two teenage girls! Wow, talk about a new type of challenge, delight, frustration and so much more, lol! This book is truly a lifesaver as are so many of John Townsend's books. He provides a unique mix of practical advice together with compassion and understanding, leaving you with the impression that YES, you truly can not only get through these teenage years, but that they can be positive and all is not lost, even when difficult situations arise. We all have different coping mechanisms as parents, many of them not healthy, and teenagers also have different ways of reacting, but this book walks you through practical ways to set structure and good boundaries in your home without being over controlling and harsh. It talks about connection and communication, listening, and HOW to ask your teen questions not only WHAT questions to ask. The book also deals with specific issues that are incredibly painful and challenging to families such as cutting, being given the silent treatment, running away or threatening to, aggression, lying, moodiness, how to handle teen parties, and so much more.

The teenage years are a minefield and some people have likened it to an alien coming down and taking your beautiful child's mind temporarily for a period of time. What I know is that it is as confusing and challenging for our teenagers as it is for us, and one day, as we rise to this amazing gift that we have been given (raising our teens), they emerge as incredible young adults that we are so proud of. My oldest two just left home in the past year, and the changes I have seen in them are amazing, so all I can say is that something in this book helped me navigate this minefield. My youngest son is almost 16 and I'm about to read the book again, not to mention for help with my new stepdaughters!

Boundaries with Teens is priceless. The gems of wisdom inside are well worth the cost of purchase and the time it takes to read. I've met so many parents who write off their teens or have a "hands off" approach in these years, and the results I see in their kids' lives are discouraging and depressing. Our teens deserve so much more - they deserve us being hands-on as parents as they go through these last few years to becoming mature, godly young adults, prepared to leave home and reach for their dreams.

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A very enlightening book about a teenager's world that has been helpful on every subject! Worth every penny!

Important and accurate information regarding boundaries!

Reviewed in the United States on May 3, 2024

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This book covered almost every aspect of my teen's world and it assists with acknowledging and utilizing different boundaries. I am grateful!

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Must Read for parents of teens

Reviewed in the United States on May 30, 2022

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This was a great book and filled with helpful advice. I would recommend reading it when your kids are at least 10 years old if not older . It was practical it was helpful and easy to apply the information.

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great book for parents very helpful advise to help with parenting bought again...people wants me to buy for them too.

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Very good parenting approach tips for the well being of our teenagers.

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Direct and clear Christian- based instructions for parents that focus the well being of your teenagers. I do recommend, congratulations to the author!

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I find all Cloud/ Townsend books very good to excellent- this book is excellent! As a single dad of a young teen, I am seeing so clearly through this book that it's not 'just me'- that I'm not alone in going through these teen issues. I'm understanding my teen better- and am able to pull back from meeting him so emotionally when he initiates emotional conflict.

And this conflict? It's all 'normal'!

I'm now more in charge of the situation- and of myself-

A great book- a 'must have' for those of us who sometimes feel overwhelmed...

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This book helped me open my eyes to things i wern't aware of in a christian perspective... i would most certainly recommend

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